Mom guilt is real. It’s very real. It doesn’t make it easier to be a mom trying to balance it all when other moms and women are criticizing every move that you do. Many moms will tell you that we need to be more supportive of one another as women, especially since we are all very critical of ourselves. We don’t need others being critical as well.
Mom guilt is the idea that women feel guilt for various reasons, such as going back to work rather than staying at home with the baby. But let me just tell you something real quick – you still have mom guilt if you become a working mom. It’s in our DNA as mothers to be critical on ourselves and how we are as mothers. That’s just the way it is.
We can choose to look positive on it and say, “I’m going to work to set an example for my child, so he/she can see that you can achieve to be anything you want.” But the negative side to that is that you feel you are putting work over your child.
On the other side of the coin, working at home comes with its own challenges. The mom guilt is just as strong. No matter how you plan your day, you’ll feel you neglect your child because you are choosing to work. As I’m writing this, my son is playing with Play-Doh right next to me. And I have guilt that I can’t be 100% present with him because of work. On the other hand, I’d love to set the example that you can stay at home with your kids and have a career, setting the example that you can have it all.
Regardless of what you choose to do in regards to work, you’ll experience a level of guilt. That’s just the way it is. You can’t really escape it. The best you can do is be confident in your decision, whatever it may be, and focus on the positive. You are spending time with your child and you’re all happy.
It’s not the amount of time you spend with your child that makes you a great mom – it’s the quality of time. Hopefully, being hands-on when you have the time outside of work should help eliminate the mom guilt. As long as you’re doing the best you can, you’re an awesome mom. Period. End of story.
Have you dealt with mom guilt? Share your thoughts and advice below in the comments section.